8 top tips for wise Christian dating

Just because you’re on a Christian dating site doesn’t mean that everyone you meet there will share your views on love, sex and marriage, says Abigail Thomas. In fact, her research showed just the opposite

Jo* is in her 20s, and is a community worker in Birmingham. She was signed up to a Christian dating site by a friend as a birthday present. “It felt like a slightly offensive gift,” Jo said, “but I thought: Maybe God can work through this.” Once her profile was set up, she started making connections; some conversations were relaxed, others were very odd.

She exchanged numbers with one man who sent off-key karaoke voice notes, recited poetry and invented rhymes about her name. More worryingly, other potential (Christian) suitors went straight to marriage and sex. “Within minutes of our first call, one man stated that he needed a wife and said he wanted me in his bed.” Jo blocked him after he wouldn’t stop sending messages and inappropriate photographs.